Are you in a relationship yet feel alone?
Do you feel angry all the time?
Have you lost hope for your relationship?
Your relationship is a partnership
If so then the deal is, “I will consider and care how you feel and make decisions with you, so we both feel good. If you do the same for me, then we’ll be great!”
Unfortunately, there are speed bumps on the road of relationships.
When things don’t go well, and you end up feeling hurt, alone or rejected. These hurt feelings must be repaired quickly. If there is no repair, the hurt can fester into “you don’t care how I feel, I don’t trust you to have my back.” This hurt becomes resentment. Resentment is a toxic poison to relationships.
It can get worse though. What if you’re dealing with infidelity or are on the edge of separation or divorce? What if the trust is gone and every conversation turns into an argument? Hope for a happy relationship is difficult to see, let alone hold on to. What can you do?
If what you’ve been doing and trying hasn’t worked, if you’re relationship feels broken, then you need some expert help and support.
How can Couples & Marriage Counseling Help?
Couples counseling can be helpful when disagreement, hurt, and resentment festers without repair. Learning how to repair hurts, getting better at communication, and becoming a partnership again can turn everything around. Being responsive to each other’s need for security and connection can help the relationship feel much better. Getting out of the negative cycle of pain can help you find motivation and hope for a better happier relationship.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Couples counseling experts at Bellevue Family Counseling trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. EFT is structured and proven to deal with emotions, reactions, and the deeper primary needs and wants that drive us. These needs are about closeness and distance, connection, and disconnection. Whether you’re starting not to get along or facing divorce for a variety of reasons, EFT is a proven process that works.
Using EFT and other useful models such as the work of John Gottman, we have a road map to get your relationship to a more secure place. Research has shown that couples who engage in the process and work through all the stages of EFT, over 85% of couples say they are “significantly happier.” If your relationship has become challenging and you want some help, wouldn’t you like those odds for finding happiness?
If your relationship is hurting, it’s a perfect time to get started in couples counseling. Let’s work together to stop this negative cycle before it becomes even more destructive and painful. Let’s help you create the love and partnership you deserve. We offer in-office or teletherapy sessions to anyone in Washington State.